Two Steps to Remember when Convincing him to Try Something Kinky

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Yearning to try something new and kinky in the bedroom? Looking to add a little bondage and restraint to playtime? For those looking at exploring BDSM it can be quite exciting, but when one partner is reluctant it can be difficult and incredibly awkward. But with some open communication and some patience it may be possible to bring them around.

Step One: Be Open and Honest

Nothing is worse than being manipulated, so be forthright about what any desires or fantasies. Let them know what any limits might be. Explore possible scenarios together before they happen and ask all the pertinent questions. Are they comfortable with bondage? Maybe they don’t want to be handcuffed but wouldn’t mind being the one in control of the keys. Do they want to be spanked, are they comfortable with costumes, and how will both partners know when to stop? Establishing some guidelines is essential before the actual fun begins.

Step Two: Start Off Slow

Now that the rules are set it’s time to put them into action. Start off slowly, with one element of BDSM incorporated at a time. Too much may overwhelm and intimidate a reluctant partner and put a quick end to that kinky playtime. Try either restraints or a blindfold and if comfortable and enjoyable for both try adding something new in the next time, like a paddle or another toy. And remember no surprises until both partners are completely comfortable with it.

With open communication and a slow start, introducing BDSM elements into the bedroom can be easy and enjoyable for both partners.

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